How to Find the G-spot
Prepare Your Hands
This is a very hands-on activity, so you want your fingers to be clean and ready to spend quality time beside her most sensitive areas. Wash your hands well and trim your fingernails as closely as possible to avoid scratches which might potentially lead to a bad break-up.
Get Comfortable
If you’ve just met someone or are planning to meet someone tonight, you’ll want to hold off on any G-spot stimulation for some time. A G-spot orgasm can be a bit messy and takes a great deal of time to achieve in some cases. So it is best to start working toward a G-spot orgasm after you’ve had time to grow close in a relationship.
When you’ve reached a point of being absolutely comfortable together, you’ll be ready to try for a G-spot orgasm. Remember, of course, that it’s unusual to get it right the first time, but practice might very well make perfect.
Work Up to It
As tempting as it might be to just jump right in, skipping foreplay and all that it entails will likely kill any chances of a G-spot orgasm. To reach orgasm this way, she needs to be relaxed and very much in the mood. So start slowly with a bit of massage and closeness. Simple touches throughout the day can help to relax her and build up enthusiasm for the night ahead – of course, these are not lewd touches – shoot for gentle, meaningful embraces and such.
Start the Action
Stimulating the G-spot begins outside of the vagina. Continue your foreplay by kissing deeply, rubbing and using your mouth to stimulate her breasts before moving on to her clitoris. Spend as much time as necessary stimulating her clitoris while continuing to kiss her mouth, neck, breasts and shoulders. When she’s a bit beyond ready and is literally begging you to move on to penetration, you’re ready to start looking for the G-spot.
Finding the G-Spot
Find a position that is comfortable for both of you. A likely position that will work for both partners is to have her lay on her back a.k.a. missionary style, while you kneel between her thighs or off to either side.
With your palm up, extend a finger or two into her vagina. You’re looking to go about two inches in, so use your second knuckle as a guide for distance. Begin stroking the top of her vagina in a “come here” sort of motion.
Move slowly and feel carefully as you move about the area. You’re looking for a small area that feels a bit different from the rest of her vagina. It might be rougher or a bit more rigid than the rest of the vaginal walls. It can be hard to find, so if you’re struggling to find it, don’t worry. As you continue to stimulate the area, the G-spot will swell and increase in size making it easier to find.
Once you’ve found the spot, use your finger to stimulate it in your “come here” crooking movement. You’ll need to experiment to find the right firmness to use as well as the right rhythm. Once you’ve found a pattern she likes, continue it until she reaches orgasm.
Discomfort and Concerns
Some women feel a strong discomfort rather than pleasure when their G-spot is stimulated. If this is the case with your partner, don’t push the issue, it will likely ruin the evening and all the work you’ve done thus far.
It is very common, however, for women to feel a strong need to urinate when the G-spot is first stimulated. If she feels this sort of discomfort, continue with stimulation for a bit longer as most women move past that feeling into a much more pleasurable state.
It can take some time to experience a G-spot orgasm. If your fingers are finished before she is, consider using a different finger pattern to rub the spot directly or invest in a sex toy that includes a special curved section designed for G-spot stimulation.
Finally, when she climaxes from a G-spot orgasm, it’s very common for there to be a liquid ejaculation. This is not urine. It is called a female ejaculation and is perfectly normal.